A confused woman have written to relationship counsellor David Papa Bondze-Mbir on an issue affecting her emotionally.
According to her, she’s no more having any feelings for her husband but she’s head over heels in love with his pastor who counsels her as well.
Read her full message below:
“Good morning, Dave. I hope you are fine? My head pastor is a professional counselor /therapist. He is good at both jobs (pastoring and counseling), and has been helping me deal with my marital issues. At the moment, it seems like the situation between me and my husband may never be solved. But even if it could be, I really do not think I want to be married to him anymore.
I am developing feelings for my pastor. He’s been a widower for almost two years now. Pastor says he does not date his counselees, however, he’s often hard whenever he hugs me after every counseling session. I have told him I want to divorce my husband but he doesn’t think that would be a good idea. He feels my husband would eventually come along, because he counsels him too separately.
I told pastor about my sudden feelings for him and he said he felt the same way about me too, thus, his reason for talking me out of a divorce. I visited him at home one time and he couldn’t stop staring at me. He cooked for me, watched a movie with me, prayed with me, and then, accidentally, kissed me. I kissed back, hard, and it almost ended in sex. We got naked, though he stopped. There was no sex, but it almost happened. He ended up massaging my body instead.
We’ve been texting and calling since that day, and it hasn’t been about counseling talks, but our feelings for each other. My husband is changing, and being all sweet and nice to me lately. He’s apologized and told me he wants us to work things out, but Dave, my heart is out of it. I do not want him anymore. I do not want to be married to him anymore.
I want my pastor. How do I tell him this without making him assume the very worst of his pastor, and now, best friend? “